Almost all the problems associated

They came to see her as well, to examine her and ask her questions about her condition

The new beginning

She eventually returned home with her memory completely blank . But she was determined to understand what happened to her, so she began reading medical books and studying the aspect of specializing in memory loss of all kinds . She met with specialists in this field and talked to them . And then I finally put out a research paper on her condition . Not long after, she was invited to speak at a medical conference to present her research, answer questions about her amnesia, and share with others her experiences and ideas about neurophysiology . She has become a completely new person . All the attention she received in the hospital and later on made her feel valued and important, and that she was really loved by her family. Then came the attention and welcome that the specialized doctors received her with, giving her a higher self-esteem and respect . She became uniquely positive, self-confident, kind-hearted, eloquent, educated, and often asked as a speaker and an argument in the medical field .all negative memories of her childhood were erased, as well as her sense of inferiority disappeared. She became a new person, changed her way of thinking and changed her life .

The White page

It was the Scottish philosopher "David Hume" who first proposed the idea of a white page . This theory says that every person comes into this world without any thoughts or opinions at all , and everything that a person thinks or feels is acquired sinceAbout him

Childhood onwards . Since the child's mind is a blank page, all the people and experiences he goes through Leave a mark on him . An adult becomes only the total aggregate of all that he has learned, felt and experienced during his growth . What adults do later, and what they become, is the result of this early rehabilitation and adaptation . As Aristotle wrote: "Whatever the individual is influenced by expresses: perhaps the greatest discovery about human nature during the twentieth century was the discovery of self-image. According to this idea, everyone acquires a set of concepts about himself from the moment of his birth. And that self-image of yourself then becomes the dominant program of the unconscious computer in your mind, determining everything that goes around in your mind, everything that you say, what you feel and do . For this reason, every change that takes place in your external life begins with a change in the self-image of a person, that is, it begins with a change in the way you think and feel about yourself and your world. As an adult, all your thoughts, opinions, feelings and psychological attitudes have been acquired from childhood . All that you are today is the result of an idea or impression that you have taken and accepted as reality . And when you believe that something is true, it turns into a truth for you, no matter how true it is .. "You are not what you think you are , but what you think you are

The issue

You be him .

First impressions last

If you grew up under the wing of parents who are always eager to tell you that you are a good person, they loved and encouraged you, supported you, believed in you, no matter what you did or did not do, you will grow up with the belief that you are a good and valuable person . At the age of three, this belief will take root and become a fundamental aspect of the way you view yourself and your connection to the world . And later, no matter what happens to you, you will still cling

With this belief . That is, it becomes your reality

And if you grew up to parents who do not know how much their words and behaviors affect you , and the ability of these things to shape your personality, then they must have resorted to destructive criticism :

Showing dissatisfaction, physical and psychological punishment in order to tame or control you and when a child is constantly criticized at an early age, he quickly concludes that something is wrong with his character . He does not realize why he is being criticized or punished, but assumes that his parents know the truth about him, and he deserves this . Then he begins to feel that he is not worthy of love and appreciation, that he is of little importance . It must be worthless to me.

Launch . Almost all the problems associated with the personality in adolescence and maturity are rooted in what psychologists refer to as abstinence from offering love . A child's need for love is like roses ' need for rain . When children feel unloved, insecurity and fear overwhelm them, they think, "I'm not good enough" . And they begin to engage in compensatory behaviors in order to compensate for this internal tension of theirs . This feeling of lack of love manifests itself in misconduct, personality problems, outbursts of rage and anger, frustration and despair, lack of ambition, problems communicating with people and relationships

I was born without fears.

A child is born without fears, except for the fear of falling and loud sounds . And all other fears are taught to the child during his development and the two main types of fear that we all acquire are the fear of failure or loss and then the fear of criticism or rejection . We begin to acquire the fear of failure constantly criticizing and punishing us whenever we try to do something new or different . They shout at US and say : "no ! Get out of there ! Stop it : put that aside ! " . Such shouts and criticism are often accompanied by physical punishment

Then

And the deprivation of love, the possibilities of which received panic in our souls

And soon we begin to think that we are wayward, extremely vulnerable, incompetent adults

We lack the ability, and are unable to do anything new or different . We express these feelings with words like, "I can't, I can't, I can't," and whenever we think about doing something new or challenging, we automatically respond to feelings of fear, trembling, and upset bowels . We take the same reaction as if we are afraid of the "punishment slap" on our ass from the father or mother . We keep saying "I can't" over and over again

Fate

We are

The fear of failure is the primary cause of failure in adult life

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As a result of destructive criticism in our childhood, we hinder ourselves from progressing as adults . We underestimate ourselves, give up trying even before we start it . Instead of using our mind's amazing abilities to come up with ways to achieve what we want, we use our mental capacity to invent excuses for not being able to, and excuses for not getting

What we want

Our need to be loved

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The second main type of fear that hinders us from progressing, weakens our self-confidence, and also eliminates our desire for a happy life is the fear of rejection, which is expressed in the form of criticism . This emotion is acquired during early childhood, as a result of parents expressing their disapproval of us whenever we do something they expect from us . As a result of our not making them happy, they get angry and deprive us of their love and acceptance, which we desperately need as children .the fear of being unloved and left to loneliness is a serious psychological harm to a child, who soon shapes her behavior so that she does everything she thinks will be satisfied and accepted by her parents. It loses its spontaneity and uniqueness . And she starts thinking, " I should ! I should have ! I should have !  From this she concludes, " I have to do everything that my father and mother want from me, otherwise they will stop loving me, and I will be

Alone ! "

Conditional love

Person

A child grows up under the shadow of the so-called "conditional love" ( as opposed to unconditional love, which is the greatest gift that a person can give to another ) and when he becomes . An adult is extremely sensitive to the opinions of others. The extreme form of this is when he is unable to do anything if there is the remotest possibility that someone else will not agree with him . He re-applies his childhood relationship with his parents to important people in his mind - as a life partner, boss, relatives, friends, or authority figures - and struggles in desperation to gain their satisfaction , or at least not to lose.

The fear of failure and rejection caused by destructive criticism in early childhood is the root of most of the problems of misery and stress in our adult life . We feel that " we can't ! "Or that" we should do this and that ! "All the time. . The worst feeling is when we say: "I can't do it, but I have to do it ! "Or" I should do it, but I can't ! "

We want to do something, but we are afraid of failure or loss, or if we are not afraid of losing, we are afraid that others will not be satisfied with us . You also want to do something to improve our lives, at work or at home, but we are afraid that we may fail, that someone may criticize us, or both .

For most people, their fears dominate their lives . Everything they do is arranged in order to avoid failures or criticism . They constantly think about safety, instead of striving for their goals . They also seek reassurance, rather than their

Towards opportunities and potentials.