And obstacles, and temporary failures . These unexpected and unwanted frustrations and frustrations are normal and normal, and accompany a person's journey to maturity, and in order to change your thinking and change your life, you must make a decision to overcome these obstacles and frustrations in order to continue your life, no matter what happens or happens . Until you achieve this, you will remain a slave to your past, that past that cannot be changed in any way .make a decision today that from now on you will cancel from your life all phrases If this had happened, if only it had not happened, if only

Reinterpreting events differently

"It's never too late to have a happy childhood," says author and speaker Wayne Dyer . It means that at any time you can reinterpret the unfortunate events of your early life in a positive way . You can practice the law of substitution by looking at the aspects of negative experiences for something good, and thinking about it instead of thinking about the negative experience . You can focus on the way I made you .. Your unpleasant experiences a person is more offended and wiser . In fact, you can be grateful to those who have offended you in the past, because they have made you a stronger person in the present. In any case, what happened in the past cannot be changed in any way

Your parents had no experience in raising children . Moreover, they are the fruit of the way he grew up . Like all human beings, they became parents, keeping their problems and weaknesses, exactly as they are today . Despite this, they did the best they could to the best of their abilities . They were the two people they were, and they wouldn't have raised you any differently than they were . It is stupid to continue

Being upset about things they did or didn't do, because they could only do

With that . Put aside the things of the past to get on with your life

According to the Russian philosopher "ozbinsky" the second main reason for the unification of emotions with the reality of the problem or correlation. This happens when you take something personally or when you become attached to someone or something . You see the disturbing outcome of an event or a circumstance as a directed personal abuse

An attack on you, an attack on you, an attack on something you believe in or cherish . You become emotionally involved in the situation, and strongly attached to it, which negatively affects your emotions and mind

The great spiritual guides have emphasized the importance of separating our feelings from the lived situation (that is, not uniting with it), in order to restore our calm and composure . The psychologist and philosopher William James of Harvard University once wrote: "the first step to dealing with any hardship is to prepare to go through it as. He encourages people to say "what cannot be cured can be tolerated" . In other words, the practice of disconnecting from any person or situation brings you feelings of anger and distress . Remove emotional energy from him so that you regain your calm and composure

This method does not assume that you accept everything that happens to you positively . But it encourages you to use your will to keep your mind and feelings under your control . And to tame yourself to mentally move away from the situation and approach the problem intelligently . This is how you use your mind to see the situation objectively , and to make better decisions in order to solve it

Nothing or a person can have any power over you unless you want to get something from them, they must have the right to grant and prevent you once you emotionally separate from the person or subject , and no longer want something, 

You become free . This ability to practice separation is one of the energies that you can gain by practicing, and it will make you master a situation that may cause you distress and anger

One of the nicest things you can do to help others is to encourage them to move away from the problem situation and be objective about it . Encourage them to see the obstacle or hardship as if it belonged to someone else but them . Ask them what advice they would give to someone in their situation . By disengaging from an emotionally charged situation, you and others are better able to deal with that situation effectively.

The third main reason for negative emotions, according to "uzbinsky", is internal thinking . This happens when you become too preoccupied with the way people around you treat you . If you imagine that someone is not giving you the respect you feel you deserve, you feel offended and angry, and you want to fight back. If people are rude to you or indifferent to you, you will experience their behavior as an attack on your personality and your own self . 

This psychological attitude or behavior brings you anger or frustration . Psychologists say that everything we do is intended to increase our self-esteem or sense of personal value, or in order to protect them from being underestimated by others or circumstances and circumstances . If your self-esteem is not high enough, you will be extremely sensitive to the actions and reactions of others to you . You will take everything personally, just as if what they said or did is directed at you consciously and intentionally . Although this is rarely the case, the truth is that most people are busy with themselves and their problems . Up to 99 percent of the time, people are preoccupied with their own worries and thoughts about themselves . And they devote the remaining one percent of their emotional energy

For others in this world, including you . So a person who bypasses you in a traffic jam, is more absorbed in his own thoughts, he is unaware of your existence . And it would be foolish for you to get angry and upset at his thoughtless act.

I have learned this rule through experience: "don't do or refrain from doing something because you are preoccupied with what people will think of you . The truth is, no one is thinking about you at all.

Of course I don't mean criminal or antisocial behaviors . But it is from.

It's amazing the large number of people who decide to have or not to have relationships, to do or not to do business, to embark on new endeavors or adventures or not to embark on them, all this for fear that someone may not agree with what they are doing . They continue to have failed marriages, work in professions that do not satisfy them, or offer business opportunities for fear that someone, anyone, may criticize their actions . The truth is that no one cares about you or decisions

In Abraham Maslow's studies on self-realized people, those who represent a percentage percent of adult, mature and fully functioning men and women, he found that there is a distinctive feature that they all share where they were at with themselves . They were objective and clear about their strengths and weaknesses . They did not wish or pretend to be other people other than what they are . Self-acceptance is the cornerstone of self-esteem 

Because they were aware of who they were, and what they weren't, they didn't feel compelled to constantly seek the approval of others. They take other people's opinions into account, but then they make their own decisions . They were not overly influenced by the possibility that others agreed with them or disagreed with them . You should be doing

The same thing, you are the person who cares the most and who is affected the most ،

When the famous English writer Somerset Maugham was asked by a journalist about his main motivation for writing, he replied, "I write to earn the respect of the people I respect," and the fact is that much of what we do, or fail to do, is influenced by the same thing. You do a lot of things in your social life to earn the respect of others you respect, or at least not to lose their respect . The fact is that the people whose respect is of the utmost importance to you largely determine the extent to which you feel good about yourself . Respect for others has a huge impact on your self-esteem, because it is closely related to your ideals and self-image

Exceptional men and women seek and seek respect for men and women with strong personalities and valuable achievements . And they are struggling on a subconscious level to behave and conform to their ideals and their typical idea of how a super-extraordinary person behaves

One of the most important decisions that you have to make during your life, concerns the specific people whose respect for you will mean the utmost value . As soon as it becomes clear

For those of you who you respect , and why you respect them, then you can organize your life in such a way that allows you to always gain this kind of respect, whether they know about your actions or not

Set high standards, or (don't aspire below the stars )

In a famous book entitled: "In His Steps" or "on the guidance of the righteous" by Charles . M. Sheldon, the entire town agrees, before taking any action or